Episode 158: I accepted a counter-offer and stayed and dealing with engineers who exaggerate their contributions

Soft Skills Engineering

• Episode: Episode 158: I accepted a counter-offer and stayed and dealing with engineers who exaggerate their contributions
• Website: Soft Skills Engineering
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• Duration: 00:27:10
• Published: 2019-05-20 21:00

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In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:

1. I was unhappy at my job despite having a great manager, so I started interviewing around. Then my manager helped improve things considerably, but I ended up getting a job offer that was for a much higher amount than I’m currently paid. My company gave me a counter offer that I accepted, but now I feel like I somehow betrayed my manager and don’t know how to stop feeling guilty. How do I come back from a touchy salary negotiation incident like this and make things feel like they’re normal again?

2. Compared to a smaller company which I used to work at, this new big company I’m working at seems to require more storytelling around the work that I do. I see people getting rewarded for exaggerating the effects of their work and being excused for their missed deadlines when they complain and blame the codebase. I hate to play this kind of game and would rather divert my energy on improving as an engineer and getting more code written. </rant>

   With all that said, I do understand the need for this and think it’s a valuable skill.